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ITALIAN CITIZENSHIP FOR AMERICANS OF ITALIAN ANCESTRY / DUAL CITIZENSHIP #3 APPLICATION FORMS

Read over the online applications for Italian citizenship for American citizens due to ancestry - the most popular.  Print them out. 

Reading them, you'll see that you need to dentify who in your lineage is going to qualify you, if you can qualify at all. It will also tell you what information and documents you will need to apply.  For the rest of these posts, I'll call that person your QUALIFYING ANCESTOR. 

You will notice that you need official copies.  These are usually called certified copies, International Copies, or Apostilles. An apostille is a certificate that the signature of a public official (or an archivist) is authentic, in other words,  that it is not a forgery.  In your letters to archives and governmental agencies, you should mention that you are using the documents to apply for citizenship or dual citizenship.  These people are usually trained to provide what  you need, whatever term is being used.  Expect to pay extra for this.

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GERMANY - BIRTH REGISTRY NOW ALLOWS THIRD GENDER OPTION

NPR: GERMAN BIRTH REGISTRY NOW ALLOWS THIRD GENDER OPTION


If you think the third gender option is to list the baby as intersexed or a just born transgender, you're wrong.  The third option is to not list gender.

GARY L. STEWART'S SEARCH FOR BIRTH PARENTS TURNED UP A SERIAL KILLER - HIS BIRTH FATHER! A GREAT READ!

 

THE MOST DANGEROUS ANIMAL OF ALL

by GARY L. STEWART WITH SUSAN MUSTAFA  C 2014

is published by HarperCollins

 

THE MOST DANGEROUS ANIMAL OF ALL was unexpectedly interesting, a good novelesque read, and exceedingly convincing; worth the time to read it even if you aren't that interested in the Zodiac serial killer.

 

I've helped a few people who were searching for their birth parents using genealogy research methods, and so when I first heard about this book I imagined Gary L. Stewart being the person who initiated a search for his.  While he was interested in finding his birth mother, it was she who contacted him. 

 

It was she who had eloped at 14 with a much older man or who had been preyed upon and molested by this man.  (I'm remembering that in many places and times in American history a 14 year old bride was not uncommon but in this case the law was after them.)  As a Christian he attempted forgiveness and love of his mother, but then Gary decided he may as well find his father.  Maybe he wasn't as bad as all that.

 

Like many adopted people Gary L. Stewart loved the parents who raised him and were good to him but he felt there was something of a mystery about his past that needed to be resolved or in this case solved. His search included getting adoption records, trying to get his original birth certificate (he still hasn't gotten it from the state of Louisiana but at this point he probably already knows all the information on it), and reading old newspapers on microfilm.  Eventually he was in contact with the police and offering his DNA to be tested against crime scene DNA.

 

His birth mother claimed there was a lot she didn't remember, and maybe she didn't, but as some of you researchers know relatives who don't remember but start remembering more when you present them with the evidence are not uncommon.  In this case it was the old newspaper articles that revealed his parent's runaway romance as well as his abandonment in a New Orleans stairwell had been reported on but not connected.  Imagine seeing yourself as an infant in an old photo in an old newspaper in a story about being abandoned!

 

I can say that the people I assisted in finding their birth parents "prepared" themselves for the usual scenario of an unwed parent or maybe a parent who became ill or that someone went to jail but the abandoned in a stairwell type of story is maybe the worst.

 

Stewart wondered if his mother had not just forgotten aspects of what had become an abusive and strange relationship and the loss of her infant son but was lieing to him.  He confronted her, she denied it, but my guess is that she withheld information afraid she would scare him off.

 

Strangely, perhaps in a perverse but fateful way, his mother had remarried and to a detective on the San Francisco police force!  If that police force ever did or is now hiding information they long held or holding up or preventing DNA analysis, well, it certainly sounds like it.  Stewart donated DNA to compare to a match from one of the crime scenes long ago.  Did they loose the crime scene DNA?

 

Earl Van Best Jr., Stewart's birth father, was the son of a popular minister and a sex addict mother who couldn't stop cheating.  His father finally divorced his mother which temporarily hurt his career until he switched denominations. Van Best Jr.'s childhood was miserable.  Early on he was considered peculiar - a nerd - but he did have a few friends.  He developed his skill as a musician and played the organ semi professionally.  He became an Anglophile and talked in a fake British accent.  While he might have had some unusual interests or hobbies probably no one thought of him as capable of murdering a series of innocent people.  Many other people have had miserable childhoods and overcome them so I always wonder "What makes for a serial killer?"

 

Some of the people who the Zodiac Killer murdered looked a bit like Gary L. Stewart's mother, as if his father was fixated on revenge because she did leave him.  He most likely also saw the newspaper when his mother remarried the San Francisco Police Officer who became a Detective.  More importantly, Stewart has proven that in San Francisco his father encountered and had some involvement with the head of the Church of Satan as well as a man who would become one of Charlie Manson's murderers!  His father's income came from buying and selling old manuscripts and books and documents and so he traveled a route through California and into Mexico, where he eventually died.  His father also had experience in writing and breaking code as well as forging signatures and new analysis of the Zodiac's taunting coded messages that would reveal his name do reveal the name Earl Van Best Jr.

 

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QUESTION : WHAT CAN I USE TO SUBSTITUTE FOR A BIRTH CERTIFICATE I CAN'T FIND SO I CAN APPLY FOR SOCIAL SECURITY FOR MY GRANDMA?

Question for ANCESTRY WORSHIP GENEALOGY

Grandma was born in a foreign country and has no birth certificate. She doesn't know where she was born. She came here as a small child and doesn't know for sure if her parent's were naturalized. To be honest, we are not sure how old she really is. She might have been adopted informally - brought over with relatives. She doesn't drive. She doesn't vote. Grandpa had his own business. We don't know if he paid taxes or what. None of this was a problem until, reckoning she's 65, we decided to help her apply for Social Security. How can we document Grandma?

Answer: If Grandpa had his own cash business and never paid into Social Security or didn't pay into the program long enough, Grandma may not be eligible! Have you asked Social Security? Does Grandpa or Grandma have a Social Security number? If so there must be some record of him and her, so my guess is she does not. I would check on grandpa and a legal marriage first.

OK. I would try using church or temple records, some evidence of her having a child who was born and baptized long ago, her wedding record, something like that. Social Security used to accept this kind of evidence that a person was old enough to mother or father, but these days who knows just how old is considered old enough! Pull up census records and anything else you can to BUILD A TIME LINE full of evidence of Grandma's life.

LOCATING A BIRTH PARENT ? OHIO ADOPTION REGISTRY IS JUST ONE OF MANY

There are a number of adoption or reunion sites on the Internet. 

Reuniting a birth parent and child is often a sensitive issue. 

I'm not going to pick a favorite site. I'm going to say that I've used the state of OHIO which seemed very helpful (so I'm linking above) and that I ran into a legal rut in MISSOURI when the adult person's adoptive parents refused to sign papers that would allow their son to see those papers. Every state has its own laws, and we must obey them. 

Here's the thing you should consider: DO YOU WANT INFORMATION FOR EVERYONE WHO LOOKS AT A SITE TO SEE UP ON THE NET OR NOT? 

Personally, I don't think you do want to post or read off the wide-open net. I think you want to have to register and sign in each time you look in a "members-only" site with restricted access.

What if you don't have the money for a Private Investigator or you are sensitive about invasions of privacy or don't have someone's Social Security Number (let's face it, the SS number IS a national ID) or there has been great bitterness? Can you emotionally handle researching this yourself? Genealogy research is sometimes a way around hiring a PI. Like so many other professional assignments, much depends on how much accurate information a person can give me from the start, and often adoption is surrounded by secrecy if not outright lies told to children. It also depends on where the adoption took place and the laws of that country, state, and county and the contract of adoption. 

Recently. I helped a woman who was over 70 find out the truth about her birth mother. She said she was ready. She was adopted at the age of 5 and was told by blood relatives, whom she located herself as a young adult, that her mother was a skid row bum. I found evidence of a divorce and early death, but skid row? That may have been a way that her adoptive parents and family prevented her from looking for her birth mother. Maybe the mother had a drinking problem, maybe not. I suspect this mother was probably mentally ill and not understood as such in those times. THE DEATH RECORD we sent for will tell this 70 year old woman more and allow her to visit a grave site for the first time. Sadly, it turned out this woman was actually surrounded by relatives including grandparents much of her young life, and they knew where she was, but everyone stayed away. They wanted no contact with her as an adult either. She lived her life feeling as if she was contaminated by her mother's reputation. 

So, if you have the guts and are ready yourself, try a registry or two or three. Believe it or not, I know of a reunion that occurred no more than two weeks after registration! That was in the state of California, and it was handled by phone calls from the registry and an intermediary.

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