TRICKY! SITUATION IN GENEALOGY : MYTH MAKING RELATIVES

One project I'm working on requires that I go against a myth that a woman created long ago to hide the fact that she was married after she became pregnant. Today this is common statistically (as is unwed motherhood) in the United States. But even today among more conservative or religious people it is a rarity. Even today many Westerners believe that they should wait until they are married to have sex (and since most Americans STILL marry in their early twenties this may not be so difficult!) Many more believe that contraception is a responsibility until the couple can afford a child or children. So for many such behavior is a shame. This woman who has spent a life hiding her before marriage pregnancy was born in the 1920's and was pregnant in the 1940's. My research will blast apart a mountain of lies. But that is not my intention. My intention is to prove the facts with documents. Not only was the 50th anniversary of this couple (You would think that 50 years together might absolve some sins!) celebrated by her family on a day that has nothing to do with the real date and well past the birth date of her daughter (excuse - a surprise party) but the invitations were carefully worded and designed not to mention any dates at all. Genealogy research must be proven (fact checked) and such lies cannot stand in published research.