PRAGMATIC MARRIAGE and DEATH

Pragmatic marriage - matchmaking or introductions - and no contraception.  Children dead from diseases now conquered through vaccinations and antibiotics - Fragile beings.  Or because their mother was malnourished during her pregnancy.  Or had too many children close together to actually recover between births.  Or they wore born without a father to support the family. Or their mother had no milk.

Today we talk Grieving.  We say it takes time to heal.  We have psychotherapy.  Then?

They had religion -informed world views. Children born as replacements (but not reincarnated) for previously born children who died. It seems to me that our ancestors had a whole lot to grieve as intimate family members, wives and husbands, parents, siblings, as well as friends and people they surrounded themselves died.  Reminding them that they too would and that life had many risks.

They often remarried - pragmatically  and quickly- as they might have the first time around in youth - and there were blended families due to death rather than divorce (which we think is another form of death.)  A woman without a husband needed another one quickly.

Were they so different than us?  Did they always have to carry on and get to it?

Villagers in Europe were often quite genetically related.  

Children on farms worked young.

Girls were left uneducated more than boys.  Even well-to-do families thought education - reading and writing - though educating a girl was handicapping her, making her a less desirable and dependent wife.

This was socially acceptable.

I think of the brides of pre-contraception and modern medicine days as especially brave.  They all knew that pregnancy and childbirth could kill them. 

As I try to understand my ancestors, I'm glad for the choices that modern medicine has given us.

And that be it them or me, life is short.

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USC SHOAH FOUNDATION DATABASES INCLUDE GENOCIDE TESTIMONIALS BEYOND THE HOLOCAUST

SHOAH FOUNDATION USC - LINK TO TESTIMONIALS   Cambodia, Guatemala, Armenia, Syria - man's inhumanity to man.  Shouldn't we be working on LOVE THY NEIGHBOR AS THYSELF?

There are hundreds of "access points" - usually at colleges - to this site for the full collection.

Is it possible that you or a family member should be recording a testimonial?

JAPANESE AMERICAN NATIONAL MUSEUM HONORS JAPANESE AMERICANS INCARCERATED IN WORLD WAR II - SPECIAL BOOK PROJECT

LA TIMES - JAPANESE AMERICAN INTERNMENT BOOK MEMORIAL PROJECT 

Excerpt:  The book weights 25 pounds and is more than 1,000 pages long.  It is roughly the size of the Gutenberg Bible.

Instead the word of God, it contains names - 125, 284 names. ...

All 125, 284 names have never been collected in one place.  WIth 75 incarnation sites - some, like Manzanar and Heart Mountain, well-known, others forgotten --- records are scattered.  ...

JANM : JAPANESE AMERICAN NATIONAL MUSEUM

DEDUCTIVE REASONING in GENEALOGY - NARROWING DOWN THE AGE OF DEATH TO FIND THE RECORD

Now that I've had my big breakthrough in my Polish line research, I've easily gone back a few generations but records I focused upon and would like very much remain missing or undiscovered. They are yet to be indexed for sure.  I've not found that the death records have much to offer in identifying who the dead person was married to. The death records seem to be the least indexed as well.

TO FOCUS and potentially reduce the time spent on looking for records page by page here is what I do.

I look at the marriages of the children.  If there have been two - three - four - marriages, I look at the marriages of the children from those marriages too because in these records there is a notation about each partner's heritage.  If possible start with the first married child and work forward in time.  If it says the parent is p.d. (parent deceased) you'll know that at the date of that wedding, that parent is dead.  Or both are.

ie. Jan's marriage  1835 parents both alive

     Marianna's marriage 1838 note that her father is diseased

      Sophia's marriage 1843 note that both parents are deceased.  

Therefore I know that I need to look from 1838 to 1835 for the death of these children's father.  And from 1843 to 1838 for the death of these children's mother.

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COLLECTING THE FINAL WORDS THAT DYING PEOPLE SAY...

FINAL WORDS PROJECT  Lisa Smartt and Dr. Raymond Moody...

You can share...

CHERBOURG PASSENGER LISTS and MUCH ELSE at GJENVICK- GJONVIK ARCHIVES

GG ARCHIVES - CHERBOURG PASSENDER LISTS   The last port the Titanic stopped at before it's fateful journey across the Atlantic was Cherbourg,

GG archives presents these French passenger lists as well as much much more.  

I don't usually like to link to sites with ads, and this one has them, but it's an impressive collection.

Ads will pop up.  You'll have to be careful that you don't enter an ancestor's name into the ad for a search for living humans or search for singles to date. I find the distractions difficult but...

If you find what you needed I suggest it's reasonable to support the site with a contribution.  It's been up a long time and the owner is an educated person who has an interesting collection to share.

You may also find Antwerp Belgium 1892-1939

Belfast Ireland 1923-1939

Boston 1887-1939

Boulogne sur Mer 1899-1933

Montreal, Naples.... and more...

ROADSIDE FLOWERS

 

SAN FRANCISCO 1906 : COLORIZED FILM

So glad women no longer have to wear those trip and fall hazard long skirts!  This film and the previously posted one re New York could be about TRANSPORTATION OPTIONS - trolley cars, horse drawn carriages and carts, bicycles... but notice how chaotic it is.... People sauntering near trolley cars.... horses passing between trolley's. 

I have newspaper articles on ancestors who were almost hit by trolley cars and now I know why.

STEAMSHIP TICKET PRICES DURING THE GREAT DEPRESSION : MAIDEN VOYAGES

THE GREAT DEPRESSION

EXCERPT:

Before the Depression the transatlantic liners had been plying their trade across the ocean with nearly full capacity in both directions.  It was a boom time for the travel industry and women passengers of all classes benefitted from the more comfortable conditions on board and the comparatively cheap fares for long-distance ocean voyages, while their seafaring sisters enjoyed ample employment in physically demanding but remunerative jobs afloat. But as the crisis deepened wealthier passengers canceled their plans for leisure and visits, communicating with their commercial contacts overseas by letter or telegram rather than in person.  Cut-throat competition drove ticket prices down by 20 percent as companies struggled to fill their ships.  Cunard cut its third-class transatlantic return ticket price from 20 pounds to 16 pounds per person, which meant that a 6,400 mile round trip from Britain to America now cost approximately one and a half pennies per mile. (Page 184)

(Note that some women employees on the ships stayed employed simply because it was less expensive that living off board and most accepted that their tips were paltry.)

This book is just so good and I've excerpted so much.  It goes into the World War II era.

A DAY TO CELEBRATE AMERICAN LABOR

 

 

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